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I sit down with my coat still on and return eagerly to chapter three. Two hours later, I put the book down and realise it's dark. The lamp provides the only pool of light in an otherwise pitch-black house. It's also quiet, deathly quiet, without even the hum of the central heating or the swoosh of the washing machine to break the silence.
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Radio 4, also on a timer, tuned itself off before the Archers. The mobile phone on the table beside me is silent. It hasn't rung, beeped or throbbed, probably since yesterday, maybe the day before. There was a time when coming back to an empty house would fill Women seeking casual sex Alma Georgia with pleasure — like a snowy day at school.
I'd luxuriate in the extra, unexpected bonus of having the place to myself, and happily breathe in the peace and quiet. But now, as anticipated, when, two years ago I wrote here about my very empty nest — with the kids grown, gone, or not yet home from college — it's just lonely.
There, I've said it.
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I'm lonely. We're all so popular now, so connected.
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It's a mark of shame to have no friends, real or virtual, no followers, not to be linked-in to everyone you ever met for five minutes at a party — once — in So finding yourself at home, alone, with only 30 followers on Twitter, four of whom are the same person, a silent phone, and nobody you care to call must mean there's something wrong with you. You're unpopular, friendless, abandoned, alone. In my case, I have four kids and my solitude is only temporary.
In a week, a month, my newly graduated son and student daughter will arrive to re-colonise their bedrooms. For the next year or two, even without David Cameron's edict, my semi-adult offspring will continue to be reluctant, economic refugees in the house. Children need their parents, even grown-up children — but they just need them to be alive, they don't need them in the same Find sex partners Bentonville Arkansas. They want you to be uncomplainingly happy somewhere over there.
In the background. Out of the way. And only to step forward when needed. They don't want you to tag them on Facebook. This is as it should be. You raise them to be confident, caring, well-adjusted, independent adults with rich, fulfilled lives and friends of their own.
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You can't whine about being lonely if they then do just that. If mine were still clinging to me for company, I would feel I had failed them. It's not as though I am an unfulfilled shut-in. I'm a novelist with a convivial job in a publishing company.
My colleagues are sociable and fun. But no, of course I can't.
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To quote the thriller I've just devoured in page-turning haste, work is not "the equivalent of adult daycare", there to provide me with play dates and nursing care. Work is what people do to earn enough to facilitate their other "real" life of home and family and friends and leisure activities.
I may spend more time with my desk-mate "office wife" than I ever did with my home husband, but I still can't intrude on her private time. Not for others though.
Oh, I long for time alone. I need my hose. I love being by myself, people say, defensively — as though the mere suggestion of loneliness was like being incontinent, or having herpes.
They'd rather admit to alcoholism than loneliness. And at least then, they'd have the meetings. But also they don't have time to be lonely. As Tim Kreider wrote in the New York Times recentlythere's also that "boast disguised as a complaint" of those who are so, so very busy all the time.Want Anything Goes Glenshee
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But look, I'm busy too: I volunteer, I write, I belong to a choir, a quiz team, an evening class and Chelsea football club. It's My house is now empty want to share it with me that I don't have enough pastimes, it's that I have too much past — all of it full of people who aren't here. Furthermore, I was a latchkey kid — I grew up in an empty house, idling away the Ladies seeking nsa Mountain lake Virginia 24136 with dreams and books.
I like my own company — but frankly, even I'm not that scintillating.
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Still, I don't want to turn wuth hour, every evening into a whirlwind of displacement activity. Woth enjoy indolence and know how to manage it. I never said I was bored or without inner resources. I said I was lonely. It's not the same thing. I miss my old life — the dull, companionable Housewives wants real sex Lengby of marriage and the analgesia of motherhood, my chattering, once ever-present younger children and their ever-present needs.
I miss the noise of My house is now empty want to share it with me followed by an ominous crash overhead. I miss the sound of competing CD players, the clash of a computer game battle, the dissonant ringtones of dmpty mobiles, the silence of bedtime when everyone was safe inside a circle of which I was the centre. I miss my dead parents, and the extended family seated around my equally extended table that turned meals into an episode of the Waltons with mince.
Now with distance, death and divorce, everything has contracted. The table has only one leaf, and dinner is often just me eating salami on Ryvita, standing by the fridge. Of course, I could have a glass of wine at one of my three tables, set with linen and crockery from my several sets of I could light a candle to make it special. But it's not sharw. It's miserable. My house is now empty want to share it with me xhare is too big for me.
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I've shrunk in the wash. I'm a desperate housewife, without the rest of the cast. I do entertain. I cook.
I invite. But I'm actually not that sociable.
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So, I'm not lovelorn. I have children who care about me. I really am not alone. The partnered-up don't appreciate the quality, or indeed, the quantity of "me" time that exists when I survey the desert of the evening stretching before me, and wonder why I hurried home from work. What for?
What to? I'm a blunt pencil. I have no point.
Of course, I do have friends. A few. The ones who aren't too busy seeing plays that haven't opened yet, the last people to leave the party after my marriage broke up who got stuck with me in the split. But despite my evening classes and my Girl Guide range of worthy preoccupations, it's hard to make new friends.
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All the good players have gone. I'm a substitute. No dinner invitations come from couples we used to see.